Day 9 of Bloganuary has arrived with the following topic:
What do people incorrectly assume about you?
People who do not know me very well assume quite a few things I think, and these (apart from number 2) are due to the after-effects of having (and eventually recovered from) Stage 4 advanced thyroid cancer. Here’s a list and the explanation:
- In the street they assume they must have offended me because I haven’t said hello (I can’t see faces until I’m up close, but then don’t want to stare).
- They assume I’m standoffish and aloof (I’m still almost as shy as I was when I was a teenager).
- They assume I like to hide behind sunglasses (I have AMD and cannot open my eyes outside without them).
- They assume I’m crying (my right eye waters permanently due to radiotherapy, but hopefully later this year there is an operation I can have to rectify this).
- They assume I might be predisposed to diabetes (In fact I have no working salivary glands due to radiotherapy and so must take a sip of water every 10 minutes or so).
- They assume I have a sore throat (I only have one working vocal cord, and for the umpteenth time…NO, I do not – I just have a permanently croaky voice).
- Some who haven’t seen me for a while still assume I must be dying (NO! I am alive, kicking, and have been cancer-free for 5 years).
- They assume I’m deaf if I use sign language to my husband across a crowded room (I’m definitely not, but try raising your voice if you have only one vocal cord).
- They assume I’m weird because I shy away from fragrances of any sort, and also animals (perfumes, after-shaves, air-fresheners, gloss paint, and any creature with fur for instance all have a tendency to make my neck swell – again due to after-effects of EBR -external beam radiotherapy).
- They assume I’m being over-dramatic when I tell them I cannot just go to a walk-in centre and have a Covid vaccine. (due to EBR my neck could react to anything my body is not used to and swell up alarmingly. I have to be monitored in a hospital for a few hours after vaccinations).
- Last but not least they assume I must be an invalid (I’m not. I live a full life just like anybody else, but I keep away from known triggers that might make me end up in A&E).